| What to do in a Risky Situation
| In Case of a Rape
| How to Help a Friend
| Domestic Violence
| Dating Violence
| Psychological Services
is just unwanted sex and isn't really a violent crime.
is more than just unwanted sex. Rape
an act of violence because the rapist uses force as a motive for power
and control. One out of every eight adult women has been a victim of
. (National Victim Center and Crime Victims Research and Treatment Center, 2014).
is not just an act committed in a dark alley by an unknown
assailant. The truth is that most rapes occur in the victim's home.
About 60 percent of victims who report their rape
know their assailants.
It is possible, however, to be aware without being afraid. Thinking and
talking about the different types of sexual assault, and what you might
do if you ever find yourself in a bad situation, can increase your
chances of avoiding rape
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- Always walk briskly; look alert and confident, avoid carrying objects requiring use of both arms.
- Stay away from isolated areas, day or night.
- Never walk alone when it is dark.
- If you are being followed, get away fast, change directions, and walk or run to a crowded area.
- Lock all doors to your car and residence at all times.
- Before you drive home, call your roommate, family or a friend so they will expect you and be aware If you are excessively late.
- Encourage group activities in early stages of a relationship.
- Take a self-defense class.
- Be aware of legislation that concerns your gender and contact legislators to express your views.
Ways to Prevent Sexual Violence - FOR WOMEN
- Be aware of your surroundings.
There is a higher chance of avoiding sexual assault just by being
awareof what and who is around you. Being cautious and alert can only be
to your benefit.
- Know your sexual desires and limits.
Believe in your right to set those limits
- Communicate your limits as clearly as possible.
If someone starts to offend you, tell him early and firmly. Being polite
is O.K. as long as you are firm and assertive. Say "no" when you mean "no" and be prepared to repeat it.
- Dress comfortably.
Dress as you please. However, non-restrictive clothing could be an advantage. We
don't want to lead anyone to think that when a woman
dresses provocatively she is giving permission to be sexually violated.
Nobody asks to be sexually violated or raped, but to be aware that if
someone ignores your limits and assertiveness, you want to be able to run and
fight back if needed. Therefore, tight clothing and high heels could be a disadvantage.
- Avoid excessive us of alcohol and drugs.
Alcohol and drugs interfere with clear thinking and effective communication.
If you are walking alone, try to have a whistle with you. If
you find yourself in danger, blow the whistle to attract attention for help. Another
item that may help you if in danger is chemical mace, to spray in attackers eyes.
Using items such as keys, pencils, pens, or books can also be used to defend yourself
against an attacker.
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Ways to Prevent Sexual Violence - FOR MEN
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- Know your sexual desires and limits, communicate them clearly.
Be aware of social pressures. There is nothing wrong with not scoring.
- Being turned down when you ask for sex is not a rejection of you personally.
Women who say "No" to sex are not rejecting the person; they are expressing their
desire to not participate in a single act. Your desiresmay be beyond your
control but your actions are within your control.
- Accept the woman's decision.
"No" means "No." Don't read other meanings into the answer. Don't continue after "No." Stop.
- Do not assume that just because a woman dresses in a sexy manner and flirts that she wants to have sexual intercourse.
- Do not assume that previous permission for sexual contact applies to the current situation.
What To Do in a Risky Situation
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- Stay calm, consider your options and how safe it would be to resist.
- Say "NO" strongly. Do not smile; do not act polite or friendly.
- Say something like "Stop it. This is Rape!" This might shock the rapist into stopping.
- If the rapist is unarmed, fight back physically, shout "NO!" and run away as soon as possible.
- If the rapist is armed, try to talk him out of continuing the assault, or try passive resistance (vomit, urinate, pretend to faint).
What to do in Case of a Rape
Reporting the assault is a way of regaining your sense of personal power and control.
- Get to a safe place.
- Call a friend or family member to be with you.
- Breathe deeply and remind yourself that you are of value, and that what has happened is wrong and in no way your fault.
- Call the police. A crime has been committed.
- Do not bathe, douche or change clothes.
You may be destroying legal evidence, regardless of whether you pursue legal action or not.
- Go to a hospital emergency department for medical care. This can be done without police intervention, if that is your choice.
- Write down as much as you can remember about the circumstance of the assault and the identity of your assailant.
- Seek the counseling and legal assistance from a rape treatment center. The counselor there can help you deal with the consequences of an assault.
It enables you to actively protest the violent crime that has been committed against you.
Reporting and prosecuting the assailant are essential
in establishing new norms
that this behavior is NOT okay.
Taking legal steps helps prevent rape and protect other potential victims.
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How to Help a Friend
- Believe your friend. A few people are going to act as if you friend has lied
or done something wrong. She/he will need your support.
- Listen carefully and do not laugh. People often laugh if they are embarrassed
- Help your friend to report the rape to someone who can help - a counselor, school
nurse, parent, child protective service worker, teacher, or police officer.
- Let your friend know it is not her/his fault. People who have been touched
inappropriately often feel that they have done something wrong.
- Be confidential and protect your friend's privacy. Talk to a trusted adult
if this situation is bothering you.
- Be verbal in letting your friend know that you care and that you support her/him.