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Dating Violence
 
Myth: Abuse means physically hurting someone.
 
Fact: Abuse does not only mean physically hurting someone. Abuse also includes hurting someone psychologically/emotionally, verbally or sexually. One in three teenagers experiences violence in a dating relationship. Dating violence is aggressive, abusive and controlling behavior.
 
A Few Warning Signs That Your Date May Have An Abusive Behavior
  • Possessive
  • Controlling
  • Bad tempered/easily angered
  • Isolates you from your friends or family
  • Blames others for his/her problems
  • Threatens force or violence
  • Uses force during arguments
  • Verbally abusive
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Is Your Relationship Unhealthy? Ask Yourself These Questions...
  • Are you afraid of your partner?
  • Does your partner choose who you hang out with?
  • Is your partner making decisions for you?
  • Does your partner humiliate you?
  • Has your partner’s jealousy limited your independence?
  • Has your partner ever kicked or punched you?
  • Are you afraid your partner may do these things?
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Answering “yes” to any of the above questions is a definite sign of an unhealthy relationship. (Provided by Network for Battered Women)
 
Ways to Prevent Dating Violence
  • Consider double dates or being with a group when first going out.
  • When going out, let a friend or parent know when you will be back. Tell your date that you have done this so he/she will acknowledge someone is expecting you back at a certain time.
  • Be assertive and direct. Be able to be straightforward about what you want, like or dislike in a relationship. Having these goals or plans will help create a positive outlook on the relationship.
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Help is Available
  • Remember that you are of importance and no one deserves to be abused or threatened. Turn to someone you can trust such as a teacher, family member, friend, counselor at psychological services, or a nurse at Health Services. These resources are here to specifically help you, so now it is your step to go there. If you decide to tell any of these members, they are legally required to report neglect or abuse to the police or child protective services.
    (Numbers for these resources are located below)
  • Or contact the Support Network for Battered Women’s 24-hour hotline (1-800-572-2782).
Help Someone Else
If you know someone who might be in an abusive relationship:
  • Tell them you are worried.
  • Be a good listener.
  • Ask how you can help them seek help.
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Domestic Violence
 
Myth: Domestic violence is not common.
 
Fact: Every nine seconds a woman in the United States is beaten by one who claims to love her. (Support Network for Battered Women)
 
Domestic Violence is legally defined as when spouses or intimate partners use physical violence, threats, emotional abuse, harassment or stalking to control the behavior of their partners. Domestic violence IS a crime, a learned behavior, and IS a choice.
 
Think about the following questions to distinguish whether you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence
  • Has your partner or spouse ever hurt or threatened you or your children?
  • Has your partner or spouse ever hurt your pets, broken objects in your home, or destroyed something that you especially cared about?
  • Does your partner or spouse throw or break objects in the home during arguments?
  • Does your partner or spouse act jealously, for example, always calling you at work or home to check up on you?
  • Does your partner or spouse accuse you of flirting with others or having affairs?
  • Does your spouse or partner make it hard for you to find or keep a job or to go to school?
  • Does your partner ever force you to have sex when you wish not to, or make you do things during sex that you do not want to?
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Steps to Take in Getting Out of Domestic Violence
  • Call Support Network for Battered Women (1-800-572-2782) or National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-787-3224). Ask for the nearest shelter and how to get there.
  • Call family and friends and see if they would be willing to provide transportation, shelter, or anything else you may need.
  • If you are unable to stay with family or friends, choose a hotel/motel in which you can stay. Find out the quickest way there.
  • Also know that police stations, fire stations and hospitals are always a safe place to go. Make sure to know the fastest way to get there.
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Five Ways to Eliminate Domestic Violence
  1. Know What Domestic Violence Is.
    When a spouse or intimate partner uses physical violence, threats, emotional abuse, harassment, or stalking to control the behavior of their partners, they are committing domestic violence
  2. Develop a Safety Plan.
    If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, develop a safety plan. This may include setting aside an extra pair of keys, money, passports, etc. to ensure the fastest and safest route out of your home. Know where you can go ahead of time once leaving your home. Try to remember the crisis hotlines, as they can assist you at anytime.
  3. Call 911.
    Domestic violence is a crime. If you or someone you know is being battered, call 911 for immediately for help.
  4. Exercise Your Rights.
    You and anyone you know who may be experiencing domestic violence have the right to go to court and petition for an order of protection.
  5. Get Help for You (and/or You and Your Family).
    There are many shelters dedicated to victims of domestic violence. Be sure to call Network for Battered Women (1-800-572-2782) to find the closest location near you.
    If not choosing a shelter, do call the crisis hotline to assist you. They are here specifically to aid in your needs.
Remember, no one deserves abuse and there is no excuse for
domestic violence.
 

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